Guest Post by Sara Klar, Interior Designer
Redecorating After Divorce
It’s been a hard long day, work was difficult and you were back and forth numerous times with your attorney reviewing what your spouse is proposing. This really got you down. The moment you are most looking forward to, is when you can turn the key and open your front door, finally able to let some of the weariness of the day slide off your shoulders as the warmth, familiarity and comfort of your home seeps around you. You close your eyes for a moment breathing in the very particular-ness of what makes your home yours. Your shoulders on their own volition start to relax.
But then they stop. You’ve opened your eyes, you’re looking around but because of familiarity not seeing all that much, when suddenly it hits you.
What surrounds you speaks of different times, earlier days when you and your partner were building new a life together with optimism and hope, and later times when there was much strife between you and every room was a battlefield for wars fought and never really won. Now your partner is gone, the furnishings remain and although the life you built together is no longer, your home is still living in the past.
It’s time for change.
It’s time to reclaim you home as your own because doing so gives you courage and strength to take the steps to move your life forward. Your personal domain, your home, is a safe place to test the waters, to try out what it feels like to acknowledge the reality that you are again on your own.
So you move the chair. So. you. moved. the. chair. So what, you moved the chair? It doesn’t sound like much but no one else but you can understand, know what it means to move THE CHAIR, because it’s not just any chair that you are moving, it’s her/his chair which took up that space for years and years. It’s the chair he/she went to always, long ago claiming it as their own, and forever until right now, it was. So moving it is monumental, in fact, it’s the equivalent of moving Mount Everest. It means you’ve moved out of the secret hope a little part of you heart still holds, that none of this is happening.
It means your moving into accepting the present and this movement hurts, makes you cry, because you are tearing yourself away from holding on to the past.
In time, eventually the tears stop and it’s ok, you are ok. The letting go, actually hasn’t killed you. In fact you feel so much lighter.
Sara Klar is an interior designer and in addition to all the usual things that highly experienced, gifted, professional interior designers do – design and decorating in all shapes and forms, detailed on her website, Sara Klar Ltd.
Sara works with her clients helping them make changes to their homes to let go of the past, envision and bring in the future. Changes small or large whatever is comfortable, that promote healing and new beginnings.
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