At our core, we all desire to be loved.
As we look for a partner in life that we can love, interesting things begin to happen. At first, we are blissfully consumed by the other person. They make us feel strong and sexy, fulfilled and needed, etc. But after a time, we may find ourselves hurt, disappointed, angry or resentful because of what they ‘did’ or ‘did not do’. Our perspective convinces us that we are a victim and have been wronged by our loved one because we did not ‘get’ what we needed.
If we were to enter every relationship, romantic and otherwise, with the following four key elements as our guide, we would begin to foster healthier exchanges; to build stronger relationships.
- Self love is the most important element in a healthy relationship. We cannot give love to another or expect to receive love until We Love Ourselves.
- Be authentic, always. We will only attract those who can accept us and love us for who we really are when we are genuine in all our actions.
- Foster communication. The conversation IS the relationship. If you are not talking to your partner about your concerns, interests, desires and needs, then the foundation of your relationship is being built on quick sand.
- Take full personal responsibility of your words and actions. It is never someone else’s fault when you speak or act a certain way, nor is it yours when they do. A healthy, respectful relationship has as its cornerstone personal responsibility.
Over the next two weeks we will examine each of these elements in greater detail. If you have another essential to add to the list, please post a comment. We want to hear from you!
