By Karen McMahon How do we accept circumstances that have turned our world upside down, ended our dreams, left us living a life we did not plan on and DO NOT want? Finances are tighter, alone is lonelier; fear is more overwhelming, finding joy seems impossible. How do we wake up every day and live a […]
By Karen McMahon Accepting how people show up in our relationships One of the most liberating action steps that we can take in ALL our relationships is to accept others as they are. It is the first step to living in peace with our ex, teenagers, mother, etc. EVEN if that person is hurtful, […]
By Karen McMahon It wasn’t supposed to be this way! How do you find your way toward acceptance? When a marriage crumbles, no one rejoices. The dream of happily ever after dies with struggle on the part of both husband and wife. One might fight hard, another might shut down, or avoid and seek comfort […]
By Karen McMahon Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. ~Albert Einstein There are no facts, only interpretations. ~Friedrich Nietzsche When journeying through divorce most of us are in a mildly to highly contentious state with our soon-to-be-e (STBX). From a place filled with tension, fear and blame our view of reality […]
By Karen McMahon Divorce is messy; it is a chaotic and painful, confusing and uncertain time. Our natural tendency is to want to blame someone or something when things are not going according to our plans and, in divorce things clearly have not gone according to plan. Consequently, it is easy to get caught […]
Everyone going through divorce deals with upset and it manifests itself in different ways for each of us. You may be dealing with fear or intimidation, betrayal or insecurity, shame or disbelief, anxiety or confusion…the list is endless. What do you do when the fabric of your life feels like it is being torn to […]
When we judge we are in resistance to who someone is or what a situation is. The resistance causes us pain, sometimes-great pain and suffering. Our instinct is to blame the subject of our judgment for our pain when in fact it is our judgment of them and the resulting resistance that causes our pain. The good news is...
Acceptance is seeing it, feeling it and choosing to move through it to get to the other side. We can accept with judgement but we will be filled with bitterness and resentment. It is in forgiving the situation or person that we can shift...
By Karen McMahon Fear, much like a circus mirror, distorts our view of reality. We each have fears as we go through the divorce process. Our fears are often based in the unknown. Everything is so uncertain, it is impossible to see around the bend to know what your life is going to look […]
When I look back on this year, I can say that I have grown tremendously in my awareness and behavior around my relationship. It has been anything but easy. I have been upset, confused, frustrated, angry and broken hearted. I have experienced both love and loneliness, faith and insecurity, self doubt, complete certainty; deep joy […]
