By Lisa Brick You are the only person in your life who is always there. The relationship that most impacts how happy you are and what you are able to accomplish is your relationship with yourself. Everyone else (parents, children, significant others, extended family, friends, coworkers, and acquaintances) comes and goes. The extent that […]
By Lisa Brick Over the years it has become clear that there are powerful connections between marriage and divorce, hope, expectation, and intention. I come clean upfront. I am not a fan of hope or expectations. Many of our divorcing clients share a similar story; they hoped they could have reconciled with their spouse, their […]
By Karen McMahon Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. ~Albert Einstein There are no facts, only interpretations. ~Friedrich Nietzsche When journeying through divorce most of us are in a mildly to highly contentious state with our soon-to-be-e (STBX). From a place filled with tension, fear and blame our view of reality […]
I recently wrote a piece about my older brother, the most avidly fit person in our family having a heart attack and being found dead on the floor of the ED where he worked. After being revived, he left the hospital five days later and has been recovering at home, where he lives alone. This […]
On a rainy Sunday evening I returned from St. Michael’s Medical Center in Newark having visited my brother who had a heart attack the night before. The good news—he had it where he worked, at St. Mike’s ER. The not so good news—he had it in an area where it was not observed. When his […]
What is this very simple word all about? So, thankful for Merriam-Webster being online, I learned that it’s as simple as how a subject or its parts are mentally viewed I had to ask myself that this weekend in the midst of a discussion about the difference between ‘partly cloudy’ and partly sunny’. I know […]
How often have you started to share something you’ve been thinking only to have the person you are speaking with begin to contradict you? It’s rare for any quality communication to take place after this happens. It’s more likely that you’ll end up arguing, or going silent and keeping your thoughts to yourself. Either way, […]
Transitioning through divorce is more about BEING than DOING. Our life transitions are much like the changing of the seasons. In nature, how effortlessly trees turn their young buds to deep green leaves to bright autumn hues and then dry up and fall from their branches in full surrender of what is and must be. […]
By Karen McMahon Whenever we are in transition there is a sense of unease as if the ground beneath us is shifting. With the transition of divorce, there are many aspects of our lives changing such as our family structure, financial stability, social circle, housing situation and sometimes even our career. As we begin to grapple […]
Whether you are two months or two years into the divorce process, it is so important to look not only forward to where you ultimately want to be, and to stop and acknowledge how far you have come. Especially when we are going through a difficult time, feeling the pain and trying to stay strong while […]
