Guest post by: Esther Adler Valentine is a funny day. Don’t you think? It produces so many different emotions; ecstasy when you’re in love, anger or relief when you’ve ended a relationship, sadness and depression when you’re recovering from a break up and sometimes peace when you’re alone. The key to these emotions is […]
When you get upset with your partner consider your part in it first. How did I exacerbate the situation or how have I put myself in this situation by not setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them? If you hear yourself saying, “he hurt me so bad, it’s his fault that I…” or “I only said those things because she…”, remember that you are completely responsible for your actions and you always have choices.
Don’t make assumptions. We often react to our perception of our loved one’s actions or words and completely misinterpret their meaning. For instance, “If he loved me, he would..." Stop and question your interpretations.
If you do not love yourself, you will be looking to ‘get’ that which you feel you are lacking from others and will surely be disappointed. It is when we are insecure with ourselves that we look for someone else to ‘complete’ us or ‘fill us up’ or ‘make us happy’. A relationship based on needing another’s attention, admiration or love to feel complete is a recipe for heartbreak...
As we look for a partner in life that we can love, interesting things begin to happen. At first, we are blissfully consumed by the other person. They make us feel strong and sexy, fulfilled and needed, etc. But after a time, we may find ourselves...
When our love tank is filled, when we feel really loved by the people that are important to us, the world looks brighter and we can navigate difficulties and differences in a positive way. On an empty love tank, hard conversations become confrontations...
Where is love found in our holiday frenzy? The moment Thanksgiving is over our society starts a mad rush toward ‘celebrating’ the Christmas holiday with an overwhelming focus on SHOP and BUY. The message is rejoice, spend money...
For many of us, it is hard to tell the difference between selfless, selfish and self-love. We see our selflessness as a good thing, but is it?
If you have always put family and friends first, self love will feel particularly uncomfortable...
