Everyone going through divorce deals with upset and it manifests itself in different ways for each of us. You may be dealing with fear or intimidation, betrayal or insecurity, shame or disbelief, anxiety or confusion…the list is endless. What do you do when the fabric of your life feels like it is being torn to […]
Guest post by: Jason Deines Divorce, loss and fear can cause a person to fall into a rut and before you know it you have moved in, decorated and given your rut a “Home Sweet Home” sign. Divorce brings so much change that we want to keep everything else in our life the same but […]
Cyber Support Group offers a convenient way to connect with others… Going through a divorce can be isolating. Depending on the problems with your marriage, you may be feeling fear, guilt or shame. You may have been keeping your marital problems secret for a long time, believing that one does not ‘air their dirty laundry’. […]
How would you describe yourself? Are you generally a carefree positive person? Or do you typically live in a world of worry and regret? Would ‘easy going’ or ‘controlling’ describe the way you travel through your life? How we react to our most difficult life circumstances can be used as a gauge and a magnifying […]
By Karen McMahon What is the difference between reacting and responding? The most important difference is the control you have over your emotions. When we react, it is an emotional knee-jerk snap. It is usually as a result of someone ‘pushing our buttons’. We can go from 0 to 100 in seconds. It is sometimes […]
When I was getting divorced, I was encouraged to shift my attention, to create a broader perspective. Suddenly I could see angels placed in my path, gifts left on my proverbial doorstep; opportunities for growth and a new beginning. What would you see if you broadened your field of vision?
When you get upset with your partner consider your part in it first. How did I exacerbate the situation or how have I put myself in this situation by not setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them? If you hear yourself saying, “he hurt me so bad, it’s his fault that I…” or “I only said those things because she…”, remember that you are completely responsible for your actions and you always have choices.
Don’t make assumptions. We often react to our perception of our loved one’s actions or words and completely misinterpret their meaning. For instance, “If he loved me, he would..." Stop and question your interpretations.
Resentment is like a glass of poison that a man drinks; then he sits down and waits for his enemy to die. What would it be like to release yourself from anger and resentment? How might forgiveness enable you to celebrate the Christmas holiday with more peace and joy?
By Karen McMahon “If you want to be happy, put your effort into controlling the sail, not the wind.” We so often try to control our outer circumstances to create happiness; a change in location, job, relationship. Yet this seldom works. Yes, in the beginning there is the thrill of the newness of it […]
