When you get upset with your partner consider your part in it first. How did I exacerbate the situation or how have I put myself in this situation by not setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them? If you hear yourself saying, “he hurt me so bad, it’s his fault that I…” or “I only said those things because she…”, remember that you are completely responsible for your actions and you always have choices.
Don’t make assumptions. We often react to our perception of our loved one’s actions or words and completely misinterpret their meaning. For instance, “If he loved me, he would..." Stop and question your interpretations.
By always being authentic, you act and react in your most natural way. When we are our genuine selves all the time, we learn more quickly who is and is not a good fit for us...
If you do not love yourself, you will be looking to ‘get’ that which you feel you are lacking from others and will surely be disappointed. It is when we are insecure with ourselves that we look for someone else to ‘complete’ us or ‘fill us up’ or ‘make us happy’. A relationship based on needing another’s attention, admiration or love to feel complete is a recipe for heartbreak...
As we look for a partner in life that we can love, interesting things begin to happen. At first, we are blissfully consumed by the other person. They make us feel strong and sexy, fulfilled and needed, etc. But after a time, we may find ourselves...
“I have not failed; I’ve found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison From the smallest to the biggest ‘mistakes’ of our lives come the lessons and opportunities for our greatest growth. It is never in the times of ease that we stretch and grow, but rather through the challenges we face that we […]
By Karen McMahon “If you want to be happy, put your effort into controlling the sail, not the wind.” We so often try to control our outer circumstances to create happiness; a change in location, job, relationship. Yet this seldom works. Yes, in the beginning there is the thrill of the newness of it […]
So how can we foster a healthy conversation and healing when we or a loved one is angry? The best approach is to listen quietly to their angry explosion. Listening is a potent tool in conversation. It is important to avoid the desire to defend yourself at this point...
On this day of thanksgiving, look at your life through the lens of gratitude for all that you have become. Rejoice with a grateful heart each day whether you are in the fire of refinement or the restful ease of a quiet moment...
Why are we all so busy? We each have 24 hours in a day, but we have NO time! What is that really about? Worse, we are teaching our children this same insanity; to squeeze more and more into the day...
