By Karen McMahon It wasn’t supposed to be this way! How do you find your way toward acceptance? When a marriage crumbles, no one rejoices. The dream of happily ever after dies with struggle on the part of both husband and wife. One might fight hard, another might shut down, or avoid and seek comfort […]
By Karen McMahon Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. ~Albert Einstein There are no facts, only interpretations. ~Friedrich Nietzsche When journeying through divorce most of us are in a mildly to highly contentious state with our soon-to-be-e (STBX). From a place filled with tension, fear and blame our view of reality […]
By Karen McMahon Divorce is messy; it is a chaotic and painful, confusing and uncertain time. Our natural tendency is to want to blame someone or something when things are not going according to our plans and, in divorce things clearly have not gone according to plan. Consequently, it is easy to get caught […]
When we judge we are in resistance to who someone is or what a situation is. The resistance causes us pain, sometimes-great pain and suffering. Our instinct is to blame the subject of our judgment for our pain when in fact it is our judgment of them and the resulting resistance that causes our pain. The good news is...
Acceptance is seeing it, feeling it and choosing to move through it to get to the other side. We can accept with judgement but we will be filled with bitterness and resentment. It is in forgiving the situation or person that we can shift...