During extreme change we lose track of what we are capable of and our value as human beings. Our worlds and our self perceptions get turned upside down and inside out. What we knew to be true has become false. What we counted on as solid has turned liquid and drained away. There is fear of the future, insecurity in the present, and questioning of the past.
We doubt our ability to discern truth, to know when to trust, to create anything enduring. The experience is a blackout of possibility and a collapse of self confidence. We’re focused on what went awry, what we didn’t see, what we saw and dismissed, the choices we made that led us to this moment of pain. We see the glass not as half empty but as drained completely, bone dry.
While we may see ourselves as anything but, we are in actuality talented, capable, and competent. ANYTHING our minds says to the contrary is worthy of interrogation. Certainly there are areas where we can improve competencies and new skills we can begin incorporating should we choose yet we already have a foundation on which to build, even if we are temporarily blind, incapable of seeing ourselves. We have the capacity to discover ourselves anew and what moves and inspires us, when we are ready.
Possibility is there to pursue.
When we are ready to pursue possibility we can choose to exit the world of what happened and who is to blame and enter in a world of what if, what’s next, and what’s possible. In this new world we create space, excitement, and enthusiasm. We transform ourselves and the world around us using life’s energy, a boundless evolutionary force.
When we live in a world of expectation, judgement, and comparison we create restriction, alienation, complacency, and stagnation. It keeps us exhausted, disappointed, and angry. We wallow in the known, stay within its boundaries however uncomfortable we are, and experience a downward energetic spiral. This is a world of pain.
Although our brains may have been trained in the latter world, our minds can redirect us to the former, expanding our world up and out of the unsatisfactory familiar into possibility, the exciting and unfamiliar unknown.
