By Lisa Brick
Knowing who you are and what you desire in relationships, respecting and loving yourself, and staying committed to going for the gold is the only way to bring home the gold. Settling for less guarantees less.
It is your responsibility and your’s alone to identify your personal goals and to choose partners who desire the same or very similar goals for themselves. With a shared vision relationships can thrive. Without shared vision relationships wither and die.
Going for the gold requires:
- skill
- commitment
- diligent practice
- transforming reactiveness to responsiveness
- using both winning and losing to learn
- the ability to realistically assess, analyze, and improve your capabilities
- a willingness to give up habits that are undermining your success
Why not apply the strategies for bringing home the gold in athletics to bringing home the gold in relationships?
Top athletes know it’s about their performance first, and determining how to best mesh their strengths and weaknesses with their teammates strengths and weaknesses.
Winning and losing are guaranteed, no matter how excellently you play therefore play the very best you can in every circumstance, no excuses.
All circumstances are opportunities to be mindful in the present, assess current and past performances, augment what works, and discern what can be strengthened in the future with new skill acquisition, training, nutrition, and rest.
It’s your responsibility to observe if you have the skills that will allow you to create the relationships you desire. Chances are you don’t have all of them. So, what do you do?
If you are going for the gold, you get in training. Read, listen, find success models and inquire how they achieved what they have, and hire a relationship/life coach.
Do what top athletes do – use the pain to learn and gain.
Going for the gold means:
- Allowing yourself time to heal from losses and injuries
- Discerning first and foremost what about your performance allowed the loss/injury
- Being open to coaching on how to improve performance
- Incorporating new approaches and skills
- Getting on the field again with renewed intention and improved understanding
- A commitment to excellence through practice and continuing assessment
Going for the gold means no quitting, no blame, and no excuses.
Going for the gold ensures that every time you go on the field you’ll play your personal best for that day.
What would your relationships look like if you approached them using this strategy?
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”
– George Bernard Shaw
Lisa Brick, Journey Beyond Partner
Our team of coaches at JBD is passionate about helping men and women navigate the emotional difficulties of relationships, breakups and divorce. We work together with you to open the possibility that your current relationship challenges can lead to a rewarding voyage of self-discovery and an immensely more pleasing life experience. Together we create a path to clarity. Find out if Coaching is right for you, and accept my gift of one FREE session.
