Guest post by: Jason Deines
Divorce, loss and fear can cause a person to fall into a rut and before you know it you have moved in, decorated and given your rut a “Home Sweet Home” sign. Divorce brings so much change that we want to keep everything else in our life the same but just because something is familiar doesn’t mean that is the right thing for your life. Divorce can make us feel sorry for ourselves and turn into victims of circumstance. Yes, you are going to have to work through some major issues in order to rebuild your life after divorce but if you aren’t changing, you aren’t growing but rather spinning your wheels – decorating your rut.
Today is the day to break the cycle of day-after-day redundancy and climb out of your rut. Begin to improve the way you feel about yourself and change your life by getting physically active and eating a well-balanced diet. Start small and work your way up to bigger goals. Regular exercise and healthy eating will have a tremendous effect on your physical and mental health.
As you break from the daily routine you may find yourself noticing new and exciting things. Colors begin to appear crisper, the air is fresher and you begin to have a new improved outlook on your future. That moment comes when you realize that divorce isn’t the end of your life but it is a new chapter and an opportunity for you to learn from mistakes and create a better you.
Some ways to get out of your rut are to visit new places, try different foods, take a different route home, listen to a book on CD while sitting in rush hour traffic, give up TV for a couple days, rearrange your furniture, journal your thoughts, pick up a new hobby, the list can go on and on. The whole point is to take action and start doing things you enjoy and stimulate your mind. If you are scared or nervous remember that change can be very rewarding and empowering. Overcoming your fears and realizing that you can survive-and even thrive-without your partner is one step on the road to healing. And the best thing? You can start changing your life this very minute.
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Jason Deines is the publisher of www.walkingthechristianlife.com, a coping with divorce website which encourages individuals to spend time learning from their past and develop a mindset that will make them better and stronger for tomorrow.
