By Karen McMahon How do we accept circumstances that have turned our world upside down, ended our dreams, left us living a life we did not plan on and DO NOT want? Finances are tighter, alone is lonelier; fear is more overwhelming, finding joy seems impossible. How do we wake up every day and live a […]
By Karen McMahon Accepting how people show up in our relationships One of the most liberating action steps that we can take in ALL our relationships is to accept others as they are. It is the first step to living in peace with our ex, teenagers, mother, etc. EVEN if that person is hurtful, […]
By Lisa Brick There are almost always signs of deceit that announce that those around us are less than honest, trustworthy, or caring in a way that is healthy for all involved. Knowing what the signs of deceit are can help you to avoid the fires of trust betrayed that burn so deeply and cause so […]
By Lisa Brick A major issue around divorce is trust, particularly trust betrayed and the question of “How can I ever trust again?” Let’s examine what we commonly refer to as “trust” and explore, given what we consider trust is, if it is wiser to ‘fogetaboutit’, at least as we’ve been practicing it, and begin trusting […]
By Karen McMahon Feeling ashamed about the dissolution of your marriage? Are you looking at yourself as a failure and fearing others are doing so as well? There’s another perspective awaiting you… Most of us are paralyzed by failure. We were given a toxic message about failing, that failing is bad and wrong. We […]
By Karen McMahon When our marriage falls apart we understandably find ourselves filled with fear and anger. Learning how to grieve and to grieve well is one of the many challenges we face. According to Tad Blackburn, a Family and Marriage pastor, we have three primary emotions, fear, anger and love. When we lose something […]
By Karen McMahon It wasn’t supposed to be this way! How do you find your way toward acceptance? When a marriage crumbles, no one rejoices. The dream of happily ever after dies with struggle on the part of both husband and wife. One might fight hard, another might shut down, or avoid and seek comfort […]
By Karen McMahon Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. ~Albert Einstein There are no facts, only interpretations. ~Friedrich Nietzsche When journeying through divorce most of us are in a mildly to highly contentious state with our soon-to-be-e (STBX). From a place filled with tension, fear and blame our view of reality […]
By Karen McMahon Our judgment is inextricably attached to our emotional pain. As our judgment of anything decreases we immediately find ourselves letting go and notice our peace increase. Like scales, the more pronounced our judgment, the less peace and joy we experience. Why talk about detachment and letting go of judgment at all? The […]
By Karen McMahon Divorce is messy; it is a chaotic and painful, confusing and uncertain time. Our natural tendency is to want to blame someone or something when things are not going according to our plans and, in divorce things clearly have not gone according to plan. Consequently, it is easy to get caught […]
