When we judge we are in resistance to who someone is or what a situation is. The resistance causes us pain, sometimes-great pain and suffering. Our instinct is to blame the subject of our judgment for our pain when in fact it is our judgment of them and the resulting resistance that causes our pain. The good news is...
Acceptance is seeing it, feeling it and choosing to move through it to get to the other side. We can accept with judgement but we will be filled with bitterness and resentment. It is in forgiving the situation or person that we can shift...
Cyber Support Group offers a convenient way to connect with others… Going through a divorce can be isolating. Depending on the problems with your marriage, you may be feeling fear, guilt or shame. You may have been keeping your marital problems secret for a long time, believing that one does not ‘air their dirty laundry’. […]
By Karen McMahon The way we draw what we want to us is by developing clarity around our desires. When I was going through my divorce, I was worried about where I would live and how I would be able to make a living while caring for my two school age children. I was […]
When I look back on this year, I can say that I have grown tremendously in my awareness and behavior around my relationship. It has been anything but easy. I have been upset, confused, frustrated, angry and broken hearted. I have experienced both love and loneliness, faith and insecurity, self doubt, complete certainty; deep joy […]
Whether you are two months or two years into the divorce process, it is so important to look not only forward to where you ultimately want to be, and to stop and acknowledge how far you have come. Especially when we are going through a difficult time, feeling the pain and trying to stay strong while […]
How would you describe yourself? Are you generally a carefree positive person? Or do you typically live in a world of worry and regret? Would ‘easy going’ or ‘controlling’ describe the way you travel through your life? How we react to our most difficult life circumstances can be used as a gauge and a magnifying […]
It is easy amidst the ‘hallmark holiday’ of our commercial society, to lose the true purpose of this wonderful time of year. Especially Christmas, which has all but been taken over by commercial lust for profits, loses its true meaning. The truth is...
One of the most difficult aspects of divorce is that everything changes. During the holidays this can weigh especially heavily as past family rituals and festivities transition into something else, which initially may seem disappointing in comparison. I was once told that it takes two life cycles to begin healing and settling into your new circumstances. A life cycle is a...
By Karen McMahon What Causes Codependency and How to Begin to Heal Marriage does not cause Codependency; it is just a place where it is practiced a lot. The roots of Codependency are always in childhood. Controlling, critical, abandoning, abusive and shaming parents and caretakers inflict the wounds in the tender psyches of children that […]
