By Lisa Brick There are obvious differences in perspectives and opinions between people. How individuals approach their perspectives and opinions determines how much emotional and financial carnage they’ll experience as they navigate their way through divorce.
During extreme change we lose track of what we are capable of and our value as human beings. Our worlds and our self perceptions get turned upside down and inside out. What we knew to be true has become false. What we counted on as solid has turned liquid and drained away. There is fear […]
To read about the first two steps, begin here… Step 1: Awareness – The first step in becoming conscious of our role in every upset is awareness. It is the beginning of witnessing our own perspectives and behaviors…the practice of ‘mindfulness’. Step 2: Acceptance – Realizing that we have a part in all our circumstances […]
Many of us do anything to not feel our pain. We unconsciously throw moderation to the wind and numb ourselves in excess. We OVER eat, drink, watch sitcoms, work, exercise, medicate, and shop. We fill and stuff and numb ourselves so that we don’t have to feel. And the pain always returns. You have to […]
By Lisa Brick Once divorce is settled, life has become more predictable, and you are feeling ready to open yourself up to meeting new people the next step is often asking yourself what you want now, why you want it, and how you can intentionally create it? Something is missing though, something invisible. This is […]
I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something. So that’s my wish for you, and all […]
By Lisa Brick Shortly we will be celebrating Christmas We will be with family we haven’t seen for a while as well as family we see every day. Some of us will be without family we used to have who have passed on, moved away and aren’t able to make it back, or dropped out […]
We discussed Awareness as the first step toward peace…a practice of mindfulness or witnessing our thoughts, feelings and actions. Instead of seeing things as happening to us, when we are aware or conscious of our part in every circumstance, we realize we have choices. Awareness Enlightens us so that we can see our part in […]
By Lisa Brick The Holiday Season is upon us, often the most stressful time of the year for people in general and particularly so for those contemplating, in the midst of, or post divorce. Simply surviving your first holiday season intact and eventually enjoying emotionally healthier holidays entails a shift on your part, not […]
Fears around money and finances before, during, and post divorce can be paralyzing. Self doubts and self criticism are shriveling to a sense of self worth that is already under water. The first three posts of this series on money supported readers in exploring the thoughts they have around money, separating their thoughts from the […]
