One of the things I struggle with is change. The need for it keeps sneaking up on me. Tenacity is one of my gifts. On the one hand, it is a gift to be able to stick with something until it is completed. On the other hand, it prevents me from seeing what might really […]
Two steps forward one step back… is a catchphrase that references an anecdote about a frog that is trying to climb out of a well. It means that as he climbs up two steps he then falls back one, and the whole process of climbing out of the well is long and arduous. When I […]
How often have you started to share something you’ve been thinking only to have the person you are speaking with begin to contradict you? It’s rare for any quality communication to take place after this happens. It’s more likely that you’ll end up arguing, or going silent and keeping your thoughts to yourself. Either way, […]
Transitioning through divorce is more about BEING than DOING. Our life transitions are much like the changing of the seasons. In nature, how effortlessly trees turn their young buds to deep green leaves to bright autumn hues and then dry up and fall from their branches in full surrender of what is and must be. […]
Guest post by Claudette Chenevert. More than half of married couples are divorcing, some more than once. The average length of a marriage today is 8 years. Second marriages end after 5 to 7 years. Divorce is expensive. An average divorce with no battling about custody and/or possessions can cost anywhere between $15,000 to $30,000 […]
When we judge we are in resistance to who someone is or what a situation is. The resistance causes us pain, sometimes-great pain and suffering. Our instinct is to blame the subject of our judgment for our pain when in fact it is our judgment of them and the resulting resistance that causes our pain. The good news is...
Guest post by: Lee Block, Post Divorce Coach Dating after divorce can seem daunting. For some it is easy, they just slide back into the social scene without skipping a beat, but for most facing a firing squad may seem more appealing. The fact is, we are predisposed to be a unit, and that […]
By Karen McMahon The way we draw what we want to us is by developing clarity around our desires. When I was going through my divorce, I was worried about where I would live and how I would be able to make a living while caring for my two school age children. I was […]
When I look back on this year, I can say that I have grown tremendously in my awareness and behavior around my relationship. It has been anything but easy. I have been upset, confused, frustrated, angry and broken hearted. I have experienced both love and loneliness, faith and insecurity, self doubt, complete certainty; deep joy […]
Whether you are two months or two years into the divorce process, it is so important to look not only forward to where you ultimately want to be, and to stop and acknowledge how far you have come. Especially when we are going through a difficult time, feeling the pain and trying to stay strong while […]
