I challenge you to choreography your life. Keep in mind the key for quadrants of our lives: physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual. Where are you and where do you want to be a year from now. Notice what was important to you a year ago that may no longer be so. What has taken its place? Where have you grown...
...preaching, moralizing or “parenting” comments can put up barriers to clear communication. Listening is your most valuable skill and tool. Families that keep feelings repressed, that don’t discuss issues that come up, send the message that it’s not all right to talk about things that bother us. The consequences of this can be seen in...
It’s no secret that one of the biggest challenges a parent faces after divorce is staying in good communication with your children. Obviously all parents struggle with communication issues as their children grow, but children who have had their lives dramatically altered by separation or divorce need even more attention...
By Karen McMahon Loneliness and Isolation: 5 Healthy Tips to Handle The Inevitable Repercussions of Divorce Loneliness is not just about your marriage ending, it is about all the aspects of your life that change. You are separating from your partner of many years and that by itself can lead to loneliness. But because […]
By Karen McMahon Shifting out of Frustration and Struggle Divorce is a battle ground and if you are here, then there is not much love lost between you and your soon-to-be ex. Frustration and struggle are bound to be part of your life. Everyone in this situation experiences it, the question is how much […]
When I was getting divorced, I was encouraged to shift my attention, to create a broader perspective. Suddenly I could see angels placed in my path, gifts left on my proverbial doorstep; opportunities for growth and a new beginning. What would you see if you broadened your field of vision?
Our greatest struggles bring out the best and the worst of our character. Divorce, being one of the most difficult conflict-ridden seasons of our lives, gives us ample opportunity to decide who we choose to be. We have the choice to cultivate the best or the worst of our character....
Guest Post What could be a better gift to give your spouse or partner on Valentine’s Day than the gift of vigorous, unconditional love? The first and second stages of love are romantic and physical — those are the easier ones for most of us to handle. It is when we reach the third […]
What is the value in forgiving someone? Do we forgive for their sake or for ours? What cost do we pay for unforgiveness? If we forgive does that mean we must accept their behavior or trust them again?
Perhaps the best way to approach forgiveness is to look at the affects of unforgiveness. If someone wrongs you and you do not forgive them, what happens? Who suffers?
When you get upset with your partner consider your part in it first. How did I exacerbate the situation or how have I put myself in this situation by not setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them? If you hear yourself saying, “he hurt me so bad, it’s his fault that I…” or “I only said those things because she…”, remember that you are completely responsible for your actions and you always have choices.
