We are a result-driven society; an instant gratification culture. If we cannot add hot water and stir, zap it in the microwave, search it up in 15 seconds, or communicate it in 160 characters, we have NO time and No patience for it...
By Karen McMahon “Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere.” ~ Glenn Turner Worry has to be one of the most common mental activities of all humans yet it is also the most unproductive. When troubles concern us, what can we do to take […]
Our greatest struggles bring out the best and the worst of our character. Divorce, being one of the most difficult conflict-ridden seasons of our lives, gives us ample opportunity to decide who we choose to be. We have the choice to cultivate the best or the worst of our character....
What is the value in forgiving someone? Do we forgive for their sake or for ours? What cost do we pay for unforgiveness? If we forgive does that mean we must accept their behavior or trust them again?
Perhaps the best way to approach forgiveness is to look at the affects of unforgiveness. If someone wrongs you and you do not forgive them, what happens? Who suffers?
When you get upset with your partner consider your part in it first. How did I exacerbate the situation or how have I put myself in this situation by not setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them? If you hear yourself saying, “he hurt me so bad, it’s his fault that I…” or “I only said those things because she…”, remember that you are completely responsible for your actions and you always have choices.
Don’t make assumptions. We often react to our perception of our loved one’s actions or words and completely misinterpret their meaning. For instance, “If he loved me, he would..." Stop and question your interpretations.
By always being authentic, you act and react in your most natural way. When we are our genuine selves all the time, we learn more quickly who is and is not a good fit for us...
The universal response today to the question, "how are you" is "BUSY!" With laptops and i phones, texting and IM'ing, high speed internet access and instant everything, why do we have less time then ever before? Even our children are over stressed, 'scheduling in' time to play with their friends. Where is the balance in your life?
If you do not love yourself, you will be looking to ‘get’ that which you feel you are lacking from others and will surely be disappointed. It is when we are insecure with ourselves that we look for someone else to ‘complete’ us or ‘fill us up’ or ‘make us happy’. A relationship based on needing another’s attention, admiration or love to feel complete is a recipe for heartbreak...
As we look for a partner in life that we can love, interesting things begin to happen. At first, we are blissfully consumed by the other person. They make us feel strong and sexy, fulfilled and needed, etc. But after a time, we may find ourselves...
