Unforgiveness and resentment are the ties that bind you to the past, to the wrong that was brought upon you. It is impossible to leave the past behind and get on with your life while you are living in unforgiveness.
There are five stages to work through. These stages are not linear; you do not start at the first and progress through them in an orderly fashion. You cycle back and forth, and you can be in more than one stage at the same time...
By Karen McMahon What Causes Codependency and How to Begin to Heal Marriage does not cause Codependency; it is just a place where it is practiced a lot. The roots of Codependency are always in childhood. Controlling, critical, abandoning, abusive and shaming parents and caretakers inflict the wounds in the tender psyches of children that […]
Over the next few weeks we will look at what it means to be in a codependent relationship. What can you learn about yourself and the type of partner you are attracted to? How can you begin to use those lessons to change your own behavior in ways that will serve you better...
It’s no secret that one of the biggest challenges a parent faces after divorce is staying in good communication with your children. Obviously all parents struggle with communication issues as their children grow, but children who have had their lives dramatically altered by separation or divorce need even more attention...
By Karen McMahon Loneliness and Isolation: 5 Healthy Tips to Handle The Inevitable Repercussions of Divorce Loneliness is not just about your marriage ending, it is about all the aspects of your life that change. You are separating from your partner of many years and that by itself can lead to loneliness. But because […]
By Karen McMahon Shifting out of Frustration and Struggle Divorce is a battle ground and if you are here, then there is not much love lost between you and your soon-to-be ex. Frustration and struggle are bound to be part of your life. Everyone in this situation experiences it, the question is how much […]
By Karen McMahon What is the difference between reacting and responding? The most important difference is the control you have over your emotions. When we react, it is an emotional knee-jerk snap. It is usually as a result of someone ‘pushing our buttons’. We can go from 0 to 100 in seconds. It is sometimes […]
When I was getting divorced, I was encouraged to shift my attention, to create a broader perspective. Suddenly I could see angels placed in my path, gifts left on my proverbial doorstep; opportunities for growth and a new beginning. What would you see if you broadened your field of vision?
There are actually four main ways in which we look at the world through a lens of fear. Our emotional angst is always born of our fear perspective. Whenever we are in angst, it is like an energy drag, pulling at our emotions and stifling our actions.
