If you haven’t had a chance to read Part I of The Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages, make sure to read it here before continuing. The tendency to feel abandoned by those who a codependent cares about is typical. The fundamental problem is that codependents abandon themselves and then attract others who do the […]
If you are married to and trying to divorce a pathological narcissist it is crucial that you understand the underlying psychology of both your behavior and the behavior of your spouse. There is a considerable amount of guilt and shame for those who get caught in the narcissist’s snare. With understanding you discover that while […]
It’s the weekend and the reality of divorce can no longer be muted with the distractions of the work week. The relaxing downtime that couldn’t get here quick enough before is now dreaded. We know how you feel; so to keep your mind occupied we put together a list of our favorite divorce movies. It’s […]
New Hope in the New Year During Divorce How do you find hope in the new year during divorce? While living in turbulence and uncertainty throughout divorce, life feels hard at best and often impossible to manage. Struggles with your finances, stbx, kids and perhaps even your faith feel like a vice closing in […]
The Sting of the Holidays After Divorce I was divorce coaching a client the other day. He was doing really well. Stepping into acceptance around his circumstances, avoiding negative contact with his STBX, taking care of himself when the sting of the holidays after divorce left him feeling like he had taken 10 steps backward. […]
Handling the Holidays During Divorce Our society begins celebrating the ‘joyful’ holiday season immediately after Halloween and straight through New Year’s Eve. The message is clear, no matter your cultural or religious beliefs, ‘tis the season to be jolly’. For those of us attempting to handle the holidays during divorce, it can feel like a […]
Divorcing a Narcissist and Winning While divorce is inherently overwhelming and emotionally challenging, those of us who are faced with divorcing a narcissist experienced a heightened level of fear and frustration. By the mere definition of a narcissistic, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, self-centered, it is impossible to engage in a dialogue where both parties needs are heard […]
How do you reconcile the differences between divorce and faith? While navigating the Holy Land with Rabbis, Ministers and Imams the conversation turned to divorce and faith. The four who spoke (both men and women), recalled their reasons for divorce and the day they decided to take the first steps in the divorce process. While […]
How you can help someone with domestic violence signs? October is Domestic Abuse Awareness Month. Awareness being the operative word. That said, I wanted to share a personal story about domestic violence, and how you can help yourself or someone else. I was starting out as a young acupuncturist in Cambridge, Massachusetts when Eleanor, […]
What makes for a successful marriage? How do I fix my struggling marriage and rediscover the magic? Responses to these questions are as varied as the individuals who ask them. However, they have a commonality. The person asking them is a person who is experiencing a struggling marriage, yet remains invested in experiencing a rewarding […]
