By Lisa Brick There are obvious differences in perspectives and opinions between people. How individuals approach their perspectives and opinions determines how much emotional and financial carnage they’ll experience as they navigate their way through divorce.
During extreme change we lose track of what we are capable of and our value as human beings. Our worlds and our self perceptions get turned upside down and inside out. What we knew to be true has become false. What we counted on as solid has turned liquid and drained away. There is fear […]
By Lisa Brick Once divorce is settled, life has become more predictable, and you are feeling ready to open yourself up to meeting new people the next step is often asking yourself what you want now, why you want it, and how you can intentionally create it? Something is missing though, something invisible. This is […]
Over the years it has become clear that there are powerful connections between marriage and divorce, hope, expectation, and intention. I come clean upfront. I am not a fan of hope or expectations. Many of our divorcing clients share a similar story; they hoped they could have reconciled with their spouse, their marriage would have […]
I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something. So that’s my wish for you, and all […]
By Lisa Brick Shortly we will be celebrating Christmas We will be with family we haven’t seen for a while as well as family we see every day. Some of us will be without family we used to have who have passed on, moved away and aren’t able to make it back, or dropped out […]
By Lisa Brick The Holiday Season is upon us, often the most stressful time of the year for people in general and particularly so for those contemplating, in the midst of, or post divorce. Simply surviving your first holiday season intact and eventually enjoying emotionally healthier holidays entails a shift on your part, not […]
Fears around money and finances before, during, and post divorce can be paralyzing. Self doubts and self criticism are shriveling to a sense of self worth that is already under water. The first three posts of this series on money supported readers in exploring the thoughts they have around money, separating their thoughts from the […]
Recently I heard two divorced individuals sharing how they used money as revenge. Their logic was that the less they made, the less their exs would have. True enough. The dilemma with this thinking was that IT WAS IMPOVERISHING THEIR LIVES TOO! When they recognized the lose/lose dynamic they were creating they also recognized that […]
Money and finances are an ever-present focus in adult life and a central and almost always thorny aspect of divorce. Conversations around money and finances are more likely than not a major stress for all involved, and a divisive mess. There is a way to begin CLEANING UP that mess, at least IN YOUR LIFE […]
