Our greatest struggles bring out the best and the worst of our character. Divorce, being one of the most difficult conflict-ridden seasons of our lives, gives us ample opportunity to decide who we choose to be. We have the choice to cultivate the best or the worst of our character....
Guest Post What could be a better gift to give your spouse or partner on Valentine’s Day than the gift of vigorous, unconditional love? The first and second stages of love are romantic and physical — those are the easier ones for most of us to handle. It is when we reach the third […]
What is the value in forgiving someone? Do we forgive for their sake or for ours? What cost do we pay for unforgiveness? If we forgive does that mean we must accept their behavior or trust them again?
Perhaps the best way to approach forgiveness is to look at the affects of unforgiveness. If someone wrongs you and you do not forgive them, what happens? Who suffers?
When you get upset with your partner consider your part in it first. How did I exacerbate the situation or how have I put myself in this situation by not setting healthy boundaries and sticking to them? If you hear yourself saying, “he hurt me so bad, it’s his fault that I…” or “I only said those things because she…”, remember that you are completely responsible for your actions and you always have choices.
Don’t make assumptions. We often react to our perception of our loved one’s actions or words and completely misinterpret their meaning. For instance, “If he loved me, he would..." Stop and question your interpretations.
By always being authentic, you act and react in your most natural way. When we are our genuine selves all the time, we learn more quickly who is and is not a good fit for us...
The universal response today to the question, "how are you" is "BUSY!" With laptops and i phones, texting and IM'ing, high speed internet access and instant everything, why do we have less time then ever before? Even our children are over stressed, 'scheduling in' time to play with their friends. Where is the balance in your life?
If you do not love yourself, you will be looking to ‘get’ that which you feel you are lacking from others and will surely be disappointed. It is when we are insecure with ourselves that we look for someone else to ‘complete’ us or ‘fill us up’ or ‘make us happy’. A relationship based on needing another’s attention, admiration or love to feel complete is a recipe for heartbreak...
As we look for a partner in life that we can love, interesting things begin to happen. At first, we are blissfully consumed by the other person. They make us feel strong and sexy, fulfilled and needed, etc. But after a time, we may find ourselves...
The only thing that we truly have control over… Many people go through life complaining about what is not fair, trying to control other people’s actions through their own, getting upset about things that happen and reacting to situations that are unpleasant. The bottom life is that life happens and we often cannot control it. But the one thing […]
