It is easy amidst the ‘hallmark holiday’ of our commercial society, to lose the true purpose of this wonderful time of year. Especially Christmas, which has all but been taken over by commercial lust for profits, loses its true meaning. The truth is...
One of the most difficult aspects of divorce is that everything changes. During the holidays this can weigh especially heavily as past family rituals and festivities transition into something else, which initially may seem disappointing in comparison. I was once told that it takes two life cycles to begin healing and settling into your new circumstances. A life cycle is a...
When you are unhappy with your job, do you find a new job or seek ways of changing yourself? When a relationship is making you feel poorly, do you move onto a new relationship of change the way you are within your relationship? When your finances have you stressed, do you create more ways of making money or...
Recovery involves rebuilding self-esteem. Regardless of who left whom, feelings of self- worth are at an all-time low. The many changes that have and are taking place force you to develop new areas of yourself quickly as a means of survival...
Unforgiveness and resentment are the ties that bind you to the past, to the wrong that was brought upon you. It is impossible to leave the past behind and get on with your life while you are living in unforgiveness.
There are five stages to work through. These stages are not linear; you do not start at the first and progress through them in an orderly fashion. You cycle back and forth, and you can be in more than one stage at the same time...
By Karen McMahon What Causes Codependency and How to Begin to Heal Marriage does not cause Codependency; it is just a place where it is practiced a lot. The roots of Codependency are always in childhood. Controlling, critical, abandoning, abusive and shaming parents and caretakers inflict the wounds in the tender psyches of children that […]
Over the next few weeks we will look at what it means to be in a codependent relationship. What can you learn about yourself and the type of partner you are attracted to? How can you begin to use those lessons to change your own behavior in ways that will serve you better...
I challenge you to choreography your life. Keep in mind the key for quadrants of our lives: physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual. Where are you and where do you want to be a year from now. Notice what was important to you a year ago that may no longer be so. What has taken its place? Where have you grown...
...preaching, moralizing or “parenting” comments can put up barriers to clear communication. Listening is your most valuable skill and tool. Families that keep feelings repressed, that don’t discuss issues that come up, send the message that it’s not all right to talk about things that bother us. The consequences of this can be seen in...
