The most important element in a healthy relationship is self love.
If you do not love yourself, you will be looking to ‘get’ that which you feel you are lacking from others and will surely be disappointed. It is when we are insecure with ourselves that we look for someone else to ‘complete’ us or ‘fill us up’ or ‘make us happy’. A relationship based on needing another’s attention, admiration or love to feel complete is a recipe for heartbreak.
A healthy relationship involves two people whose self-esteem exists independent of the other yet who desire to grow with each other. These couples have life experiences independent of each other while sharing beautiful times together as well. They have a deep respect and acceptance of each other’s differences. Their love is based on ‘giving’ to not ‘getting’ from one another. Both partners give love and admiration and build each other up. Neither is demanding of the other to fix or fulfill a part of them but each becomes enhanced by the others presence in their life.
If you are looking to feel complete by meeting someone, use this realization to work on your own self-love and acceptance. Once you truly love yourself, you will begin to draw to you the type of person who can and will love you.
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