Early Stages Of Divorce

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Early Stages of Divorce & Coping with Divorce - NY - NJ

ARE YOU HAVING A HARD TIME COPING WITH DIVORCE?

Blindsided by your spouse’s decision to leave or struggling with guilt, fear and uncertainty about your choice to divorce? If you are deep in pain, struggling with confusion or frustrated by your inability to focus, we can help you cope with divorce.

Many men and women trying to cope with divorce feel seriously overwhelmed by the vast array of changes that are before them.

Because divorce is a transition that touches every aspect of your life altering your finances, home, career, social circle and relationship with children, in-laws and friends, it can be immensely shocking to your system when you are first confronting and coping with divorce.

You may find yourself significantly less productive at work, unable to follow conversations, easily distracted, forgetful, less clear, more uncertain of things you typically are sure about, etc.  It is like a large database program is running in the background of your mind, slowing down all your day-to-day functioning.  Feeling like this, while certainly uncomfortable, is a natural reaction to coping with divorce.

Even the most levelheaded steady person can find themselves awash in emotions while coping with divorce

Coping with divorce is a lot like stepping into an emotional tornado you might experience sadness, fear, uncertainty, denial, anger, confusion, desperation, hopelessness, bitterness, insecurity and many more depleting emotions throughout a given day.

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When first coping with divorce, denial reigns as your psyche adjusts to the trauma of your unfolding circumstances.  After that, depression, anger, and bargaining rolls in and out of your head and heart.

Ultimately you want to touch upon acceptance and then begin to live into it. Acceptance is a process.  Even touching it momentarily is a good sign that you are headed in the right direction.

It is easy to become paralyzed when you are trying to figure out ALL the pieces at once!

Divorce scatters all the pieces of your life.  When coping with divorce, there is a tendency to think about all the shifting pieces simultaneously, trying to create some semblance of order.  Since here are many unknowns, thinking about all of the pieces…the past, the present and the future all at once can be mentally overwhelming  and paralyzing.

When coping with divorce, we recommend that you list all the areas you need to address and then commit to taking it one step at a time.  Looking at the big picture daily and getting overwhelmed will only serve to leave you frozen, unable to act or reactionary and making choices from a place of confusion and uncertainty that complicate the situation rather than defuse it.

We are here to help you cope with divorce

Divorce is painful.  The key is to stop creating additional pain and learn to navigate this stormy period with mastery. We coach you through three powerful steps of Awareness, Acceptance and Action so that you can unlock a very different and infinitely more pleasing life experience.

We help you to notice the perspectives and reactions you hold and engage in that have not benefited you and encourage you.  We encourage you to use the difficulty of divorce as an impetus to transform the way you cope with your divorce and life and to create an incredibly rich and fulfilling present and future.

We partner with you to strategically support you through your unfolding circumstances in a way that encourages and empowers you, enables you to move through the divorce process as quickly and effectively as possible while utilizing your divorce attorney in the most cost efficient manner possible.

We introduce you to approaches that allow you to assume ownership of your divorce process, act from responsiveness rather than re-activeness, and benefit from new perspectives that minimize contention and bitterness and allow for grace and dignity.

If you think you are ready to begin coping with divorce, take our Divorce Coaching Survey Now.

We will schedule your Complimentary Session upon receiving a score that represents your openness to begin coaching and transforming your life.  Learn more about Divorce Coaching and healthy ways to cope with divorce.

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