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Third Step To Love – Making Yourself A Priority

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Loving yourself enough to say, “I count too!”

If you want to find someone to love you, you must first love yourself.  How do you do that when everyone is demanding your time?

It is important to realize your role in ‘training’ your loved ones (children, spouse) to expect selflessness from you…as that is how you have acted until now.  By doing so, you have encouraged them to be selfish, primarily concerned with their own needs.  If you can own your part in this, it will help you to move forward. Continue reading

Step Two – First Love Thyself

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By Karen McMahon


“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance” – Oscar Wilde

The first challenge in self loving is to stay in your own head.  If you think about being self loving and immediately focus on what everyone else will say, think and do, you will defeat yourself before you begin.  For the sake of this exercise, their opinions don’t matter.  Focus only on your thoughts and feelings; we can deal with everyone else later.

Self-loving: The instinct or desire to promote one’s own well-being; regard for or love of one’s self.

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The First Step to Finding True Love

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By Karen McMahon


For many of us, it is hard to tell the difference between selfless, selfish and self-love.  We see our selflessness as a good thing, but is it?

Selfless is having, exhibiting, or being motivated by no concern for oneself

If you have always put family and friends first, self love will feel particularly uncomfortable. This is especially so when those closest to you are displeased with the thought of you taking time for yourself.    Those who depend on your selflessness will feel jilted and accuse you of being selfish.

 “Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.” – Willam Shakespear

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Divorce: Navigating the Unknown

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By Karen McMahon

Can you see the light at the end of the tunnel?

Divorce is the most emotionally devastating life transition you can experience, second only to the loss of a loved one.  That’s a pretty powerful statement.  It makes sense that you are not yourself; that you are on edge.  Perhaps you feel filled with uncertainty and fear of what the future holds; or feel you are drowning in anger and resentment when you are normally a happy person.  One of the difficult things we face in divorce is the loneliness and separation not only from our spouse, but often from our community of married friends.  We no longer socialize as a couple and what we have had in common begins to change.  As a result you may feel lost, that somewhere along the road you went astray and now, in the midst of the storm, don’t know how to get back on course. Continue reading

What We Appreciate, Appreciates…

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By Karen McMahon

“I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” – Gandhi

You know how something can happen that you find distasteful and you replay the events and words in your head over and over again. You actually feel the upset as if it is happening now; and yet it has already passed – it is now just an illusion, a story in your mind. You are on automatic pilot, ‘living in this past experience’ while the joy of the present moment is being lost. Perhaps you are driving down the road, not even noticing the sunshine, the color of the trees and the beautiful day or silly chatter and laughter of the kids in the back seat.

What we appreciate, appreciates. In other words, what we give our attention to grows in value. Continue reading