By Karen McMahon
I often coach my clients around the impact that being judgmental has on them, the people they interact with and their circumstances. I invite them to be discerning rather than judgmental and have found that there is significant confusion around these two words, what they mean and what the difference is.
If you look up judgement and discernment in some dictionaries, you may read the exact same definition, so the confusion makes sense. My intention is that this article brings clarity to the topic. Here are some definitions to get us started:
Judgmental: Being censorious or critical; having or displaying an overly critical point of view.
Discerning: Having or revealing keen insight and good judgement; being judicious, wise, prudent or circumspect. Continue reading
By Karen McMahon
The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.
We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.
~ Albert Einstein.
- I was thinking about calling my brother. The phone rang. It was my brother, an unusual time for him to be reaching out to me.
- I was struggling to find a solution to a problem. I was considering and considering yet nothing was coming. I decided to leave it be and attend to something else. Suddenly the answer popped into my head.
- I had an intense reaction to someone I saw in a store, the hair on the back of my neck went up and my entire body went into a fight or flight reaction. I left immediately to find out later that he held up the shop owner by gunpoint.
Guest Article By Aviva Pinto, CDFA™, Director, Bronfman E.L. Rothschild
Determining Where to File for Divorce
In most situations, you will file for a divorce in the state in which you and/or your spouse live. If you and your spouse own property in different states or you live apart, you might be able to select the state in which to file. In those situations, you and your attorney should evaluate the respective states’ divorce laws to determine the best choice. Among the items to consider are the length of time it will take to grant a divorce, the age of majority used in determining how long a parent is required to pay child support (for some states it is 18 and others it is 21), and filing and procedural rules, which can vary significantly. Continue reading
By Aviva Pinto, CDFA™, Director, Bronfman E.L. Rothschild
Divorce is a reality for a growing number of aging couples, a phenomenon commonly referred to as “gray divorce”. According to a 2013 study at Bowling Green State University, the divorce rate among adults ages 50 and older doubled between 1990 and 2010. Now, one in four Americans getting divorced is 50 or older. Continue reading
By Lisa Brick
Do you break out in a sweat thinking about communicating with your ex? Resentment and hostility between parents is the norm after a contentious divorce. Communicating with your ex around custody schedules, medical issues, parenting approaches, and finances is loaded with emotion. Many of our clients, both male and female, break out in a sweat and experience their hearts pounding simply thinking about having to communicate with their ex let alone actually doing it. And now you have to co-parent together! Continue reading
By Lisa Brick
Media Multitasking, as we tend to do it in the Information Age, is disrupting your ability to navigate divorce with grace and dignity. The practice, as pervasive as it is, is hurting you by undermining your abilities to be calm and rational when it comes to communications with your yourself, your soon-to-be-ex (STBX), your attorney, and your children. Rather than a technique to boost efficiency, research indicates that media multitasking is actually a drain on the brain and therefore, a particularly nefarious practice during divorce.
By Karen Basmagy
One of the wonderful things about my career choice is witnessing clients becoming more authentically themselves, usually after periods of great pain, loss and change. They come to the coaching relationship “stuck” and without a real sense of direction or plan, or feel consumed by their emotions. Within a very short time, they are moving themselves forward, creating a vision and taking steps towards creating a new reality for themselves.
For many, it is the first time in their adult lives that they are truly exploring what makes them happy, what gives them joy, and where they have compromised their values or perhaps lost parts of themselves along life’s path. Continue reading
By Lisa Brick
There are numerous reasons a relationship unravels. The majority of them are due to a growing incompatibility of values and lifestyle choices. In some cases the reason is considerably deeper and darker. While these reasons are the exceptions rather than the rule, they are often if not always the cause of the most painful, emotionally devastating, and contentious divorces. In this article I will discuss aspects of being married to a physically nonviolent psychopath. Continue reading
By Dr. Dan Thomason – Guest Blogger
Couples who can solve problems
and resolve conflict in their relationship
typically grow closer,
have great respect for each other,
and report high levels of satisfaction in their relationship.
I’ve never had a couple come into my office and say, “We can solve problems and resolve conflict in our relationship just fine; it’s everything else that doesn’t work!” In my work with couples over the past twenty-five years, I’ve noticed one big difference in how men and women process information and emotions. There are always exceptions to the rule, but generally speaking, men process information and emotions internally, while women process information and emotions externally. Continue reading
By Lisa Brick
For many of you who have found your way to Journey Beyond Divorce this divorce may not be your first. Your first experience with divorce may have been when your parents split up. The relationship you have with your spouse is also rarely the first contentious and painful relationship in your life, although it may well be the most agonizing. There are a number of you who have experienced other challenges in your childhood home, including neglect, substance abuse, sexual abuse, and violence. All of these experiences compound the pain around the discord and dissolution of your marriage.